You think you know her; her melanin tasty rich brown skin glows; a cup of chocolate overflowing it boundaries her sight compel your jaw to drop in submission leaving your red thin helpless tongue unclad and you think you know her?
Her thick hair dark of excessive Melanin so fine with it’s lines neatly outline with no single strand out of line pregnant with oil that it’s luminance shine and outshine the sun causing the sun to seek refuge from the rays of her blinding beauty.
Her intoxicating perfume chokes you like dark ash flames in the air making you stagger without stamina causing you to want her like butter to your heart’s bread and breath to your soul just a glimpse and you think you know her?
She smiles at you and you remitted her sweet lips red as berries soft and shaped like apples her teeth glows and her eyes sparkles as stars in the deep dark sky igniting this lust tearing your craving soul apart the entirety of her set you on fire now you want her.
“There is no greater path to liberation than knowledge and no greater slavery than ignorance”
It is only in our knowledge that our ignorance are purged, we must commit to learning on a daily basis, each day we learn it brings us to a new revelation and perspective of life and by that we view life in a broader and more objective perspective.
Knowledge is the food for our mind but sadly while we spend so much time trying to feed our stomach and our body making sure it is nourished we forget to also invest in our mind which is our power house. So the manifestation is while we look so beautiful on the outside our minds is drying up from mal-nutrition and sometimes little life’s winds shakes us off our balance…
What you feed your mind would inevitably determine what you become, how far you can go and how you handle everything day’s situations that confront you.
Feeding your mind or knowledge does not have to come from reading books only, it can also be from the movies you watch, the people you keep as friends and your daily conversation, it can be from what you listen to and what you spend most of your time on.
Sickle cell is a condition in which the red blood cells are not shaped as they should be. Sickle cell patients usually have pain when blood can’t get to parts of the body, these times are called pain crisis. These pains can make you cry uncontrollably like a child, it can make you want to just open up that particular place and bring out those red blood cells, it can make you get angry at yourself and everyone else around you…..but remember, in the middle of that crises, you are strong,your are brave, you are beautiful, and above all you are a warrior.
Written by: Blessing Angbazo
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Born in a middle class neighborhood, Rukky, like other kids born there, had most of nature’s finest feel to themselves. Was it the orchard where they could pluck ripe fruits to eat? The mountains where they could go playing their hide and seek games or the streams just at the foot of the mountain that served as a pool for the kids? It was nature at its purest, as if a gift from God to the children, but, unlike the others, Rukky, from a very tender age was prevented from joining her peers in the escapades. Always on jackets. At a point, she never understood why.
Much smaller in frame than her peers, always falling ill and for as long as she could remember, she was always encouraged to take drugs, she didn’t even know what for. But one particular event gave her an idea who she was and why she was different. At the age of 6, she fell ill with swelling of the feet and hand, she was weak and jaundiced, she was tired and lightheaded. She inherited the Sicklecells!
As the made way into the Hospital, she could remember her mother crying and while dashing in barefooted she was crying, and calling unto the doctor –save my child. The doctor look at her and said “the baby is in crisis again, and she would require urgent transfusion!”.
Saved that day, she was. As she recuperated in the hospital, she remembered the doctor’s words “crises again”, but as she grew up, it began to dawn on her why she couldn’t live a normal life, why she wasn’t allowed to play like her peers and why she was always held so close to her mother’s chest. She had some opportunities to hear people discussed about pains, but she was pains.
Sickle Cell Disease (SCD), the most common genetic disorder amongst Black people, poses a significant psychosocial burden on the sufferers, the caregivers and their families. According to the UN, globally an estimated 5, 000,000 are born every year with this condition and sadly half of them will die before their fifth birthday.
It has been established that Nigeria bears the greatest burden of sickle cell disease in the world. There are forty million carriers of the gene in the country making it a significant public health concern in Nigeria. Owing to the fact that sickle cell disease is very symptomatic and requires constant care; parents of people living with sickle cell disease suffer untold hardship in the course of taking care of them. World Sickle Cell Awareness Day is celebrated on June 19th of each year to raise awareness about SCD and supporting Sickle cell patients.
Sickle cell disease (SCD) is a group of inherited red blood cell disorders. Healthy red blood cells are round, and they move through small blood vessels to carry oxygen to all parts of the body. In someone who has SCD, the red blood cells become hard and sticky and look like a C-shaped farm tool called a “sickle”. The sickle cells die early, which causes a constant shortage of red blood cells. Also, when they travel through small blood vessels, they get stuck and clog the blood flow. This can cause pain and other serious problems such infection, acute chest syndrome and stroke. Common symptoms include; episodes of pain, swelling of hands and feet, frequent infections, Delayed growth or puberty, Vision problems.
When blood like sickles attempt to harvest life from you I want you to know you are beautiful Not just in the way you appear But your existence here is beautiful
When pain bears it’s weight on you Know that not one of us is immune to it Sometimes it tears at our heart and on other days a broken arm is all the pain that weighs us down
When you go through episodes only you can understand When words don’t seem to express to all the things you want to say I pray we are expressive enough with our actions that we care I pray we find words enough to soothe the pain
You are loved And like a flower; bloom into everything you are meant to be.
Written By: Tsakpa Charles Junior
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As a rule, SCD cannot be cured, so lifelong treatment and monitoring are needed. There are a number of different treatments which help to prevent sickling episodes, or prevent related problems such as infection.
Principles of treatment
You should be treated by a specialist doctor or team, experienced in treating patients with SCD. If the specialist is a long way from your home then some of your treatment may be with a more local hospital or doctor – but the local doctors should get advice from your specialist.
Because symptoms of SCD can start suddenly, you should be able to see a doctor and get hospital treatment urgently, as and when needed.
You can be shown how to recognise symptoms (in yourself or your child), so that treatment can be started quickly.
Treatment should be tailored to your individual needs.
It is important to take preventative treatments against infection and to attend your check-ups.
Stem cell transplant is the only available treatment that can cure SCD. It is only used for severe SCD. Its use is limited by side-effects of the procedure and the availability of suitable donors.
A daily antibiotic is usually recommended (penicillin, or erythromycin if you are allergic to penicillin). This is especially important to protect against serious infections in children aged under 5 years.
Immunisations: all the usual childhood vaccinations are advised, PLUS you should have vaccinations against meningitis and hepatit B, PLUS a flu (influenza) vaccination once a year. These vaccines are recommended both for adults with SCD and for children with SCD.
Vitamin supplements: extra folic acid is usually recommended. This helps the body to make new red blood cells.
Travel: if you go to a place where there is malaria, be extra careful to take malaria prevention medication and to prevent mosquito bites (people with SCD can get very ill from malaria).
Avoid smoking (which is bad for blood vessels) and excess alcohol.
Avoid factors which can trigger sickling
Factors which can trigger sickling include:
Lack of oxygen.
Lack of fluid in the body (dehydration).
High temperature (fever).
So it can help to:
Drink plenty of fluid.
Take regular exercise(but avoid over-exertion) and eat a healthy, balanced diet.
Avoid getting cold; wrap up well. Avoid over-exertion.
Treat infections and fevers quickly. You will usually be given detailed advice about how to check for signs of fever or infection in yourself or your child, and how to get treatment quickly.
See a doctor quickly if you feel unwell. Tell doctors and nurses that you have SCD.
Treatment of sickling episodes
The vast majority of people who have a sickle cell crisis do not need to be admitted to hospital for treatment. If the pain is mild and there is no fever then it can be possible to be treated at home. Treatment usually involves:
Painkillers: Depending on the amount of pain, you can take various types of pain medication. Mild painkillers are paracetamol or ibuprofen. Moderate ones are codeine or dihydrocodeine. A strong painkiller such as morphine may be needed for severe pain – this is usually given in hospital.
Good hydration: This usually means drinking extra fluid, or sometimes a drip into one of your veins, which is needed if you are more unwell or cannot drink.
Oxygen: This is usually given to you through a face mask in hospital. If you are not getting enough oxygen then more of your red cells may become sickle-shaped.
Antibiotics: These are used if you have an infection, or when infection is suspected. (You will normally be taking a regular preventative antibiotic already, as explained above. However, if an active infection is suspected, you will need a different antibiotic in a higher dose.)
People with SCD should try to avoid any potential triggers for a sickle cell crisis as much a possible. For example, try to keep warm in cold weather, try to avoid becoming dehydrated and take precautions if you undergo extreme exercise.
What are the possible complications of sickle cell disease, and how are they prevented or treated?
Sickle cell disease (SCD) is a group of inherited red blood cell disorders. Healthy red blood cells are round, and they move through small blood vessels to carry oxygen to all parts of the body. In someone who has SCD, the red blood cells become hard and sticky and look like a C-shaped farm tool called a “sickle”. The sickle cells die early, which causes a constant shortage of red blood cells. Also, when they travel through small blood vessels, they get stuck and clog the blood flow. This can cause pain and other serious problems such infection, acute chest syndrome and stroke.
Sickle cell trait (SCT) is not a disease, but means that a person has inherited the sickle cell gene from one of his or her parents. People with SCT usually do not have any of the symptoms of SCD and live a normal life, but they can pass the sickle cell gene on to their children.
• When both parents have SCT, they have a 25% chance of having a child with SCD with every pregnancy.
• When only one of the parent has SCT, they have a 50% chance of having a child with SCT with every pregnancy.
What causes sickle cell disease?
The cause is inherited (genetic). It is a change in the genes which tell the body how to make an important protein called haemoglobin. To get SCD, you need to have two altered haemoglobin genes, one from each parent. If you only have one of these genes, you will have sickle cell trait, which is very much milder.
The most common type of SCD occurs where you have two sickle cell genes (sickle cell anaemia). The medical shorthand for this is haemoglobin SS (or HbSS). Other types of SCD involve one sickle cell gene plus another abnormal haemoglobin gene of a different type. These include: haemoglobin SC; haemoglobin S/beta thalassaemia; haemoglobin S/Lepore; haemoglobin SO Arab.
The symptoms, diagnosis and treatment are similar for all the sickle cell conditions.
How do the sickle cell genes cause SCD?
Sickle cell genes affect the production of an important chemical called haemoglobin. Haemoglobin is located in red blood cells, which are part of the blood. Haemoglobin carries oxygen and gives blood its red colour.
The sickle cell genes make the body produce abnormal haemoglobin called HbS. (Normal haemoglobin is called HbA.) HbS behaves differently from HbA. Under certain conditions, HbS makes the red blood cells change shape – instead of the normal doughnut shape, they become sickle-shaped, like a crescent moon. This is called sickling. Conditions which trigger sickling are cold, infection, lack of fluid in the body (dehydration), low oxygen, and acid (acid is produced in hard physical exercise).
What happens to the sickle cells?
The sickle cells containing mostly HbS are harder and less flexible than normal red blood cells. So, they can get stuck in small blood vessels and block them. This can happen quite suddenly, causing various symptoms which are known as a sickle cell crisis. Repeated blockages can also lead to complications occurring.
The sickle cells are destroyed more easily than normal red blood cells. This means that people with SCD tend to be short of red blood cells and have a moderate and persistent anaemia. A moderate anaemia is not usually a problem because the HbS (the different haemoglobin) carries oxygen well, and the body can compensate. However, you may get bouts of severe anaemia for various reasons. For example, if too much blood goes to the spleen, if too many red blood cells break down at the same time, or due to certain infections which stop blood cells being made. A severe anaemia can make you very ill.
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It’s amazing and quite interesting how months have gone by like a wild wind, some of this month which are as shadows and others are counted. I don’t know about you but I began this year with so many desires, goals, target and breakthrough I was going to bring about and so did many others, I was so excited, but surprisingly for me and almost everyone else most of this past month have being spent under lock down and here we are in the month of June; the mid year. it is of great realization that while the whole worlds has being held still by this pandemic, time has not seized to pass, in seconds, minutes, hours, days and now months, time keeps racing forward never looking and coming back, so what have you been doing in the past five months?
What steps have you taken into achieving your goals? If there hasn’t been any, what is your excuse? Are you sitting back and watching the whole world move on while you stand still probably waiting for the pandemic to go away or are you utilizing even this time, So I figured out we all have to learn how to move with time and its direction. sincerely this may seem like the worst time to try something new; low motivation, financial constrain, physical risk, temptation to sleep or watch movie all day… but Hey dear!!!, this is a great time to try something different at least something you have not really had time to do.
So i realized that while a lot of us sit home doing nothing, a lot of people are coming up with ideas, innovation, developing their capacity and doing everything to adjust to the coming times, I forgot add that some people are making great money from sanitizers, producing masks, creating content to entertain people, making innovations and so many other things. All you need to be relevant is to create value, provide a solution to a problem people might me facing at a time like this or something to help with the post pandemic era and if necessary stop clinging to an idea people may not necessary need any moment now, may be an idea for probably 2020.
So It’s June, June is mid year (6 month) and for me it is my period of goal review and a period to see what my progress has been so far, see what need to be adjusted or changed. It is a period to retreat, look back and reflect on the journey so far and how I can best utilizes the time I have to achieve more.In case you feel so left behind, sad or maybe you didn’t even have a goal or idea or even a breakthrough to look back at,you don’t need to bother so much its mid years but it’s not too late you still got some time so you can utilize this time to look at how you can start adjusting to time and think about what you can do to add value too, this midyear can also be your period to reflect and adjust your goals if necessary to meet with time. DEAR YOU, it can also be a time make or write down some midyear goals and work towards them. Remember that you don’t have to build a space craft to add value or may be even create the vaccine for Corona virus; it may simply be something to help others adjusts to the situation, it may be something that requires less or even no capital at all. Remember that all you need to do is to create value and it takes discipline to do that; so I figured that discipline in a time like this is something very difficult to do, I also struggled with that when the lock down started but with time, commitment and determination i adjusted to a great extent. Note: Result are been created only by passion, discipline and commitment so while you make your goals or review them, you must put in mind this factors, it may not be easy at first but with time and determination you will also adjust. lastly you have to start looking inwards and look into that light that is blinking inside of you and make a deliberate and positive decision to make it shine instead.
So what about you, what thoughts does the month of June strikes in you?
My opinion about #Justice for Uwa #Justice for Tina #Justice for Rinji Bala and others
I struggled at first about whether to say a word or continuously ignore the recent happenings; the killing of Rinji by the army, the recent Uwa’s rape and killing and Tina’s killing by a police. The saying “Silence is golden” might be true but “silent is also acceptance“, what we don’t condemn we accept impliedly. Am sharing my opinion and raising my voice not just because Owa or Tina and so many others whose cases has gone down the drain by our silent acceptance are women but because they are humans and must be treated as such irrespective of their gender.
Rape and killing of any sort are acts that are grossly inhumane and must not be kept silent, there is no reason whatsoever to rape a woman no matter how she may appear. while we yell and caution our daughters to cover to their necks their body, we must also teach our boy’s self control because a man who can see a 3 year old girl child and loose self control will still loose self control even if a woman covers to the head. The implication of this one sided and bias caution is that first we place the blame of being raped on the woman; by asking questions like what was she doing out at night at the first place or in the church alone or in a man’s house? we point fingers at her for being the cause of her own rape impliedly and secondly it shows that we are raising our Guys/boys to become like dogs who can go at anyone, I believe our Guys/boys are not dogs or some sort of wild animals so the should also be taught self control and discipline and be thought most importantly that no matter how low a woman’s cloth are or how broad his shoulder is, she has full entitlement to her body just as he does and consent is a language of responsibility.
Secondly no one has the right to take the life of anyone unlawfully for whatsoever reason no matter who that person is and what he might have done, if such happens, such cases are not to be left unheard or be left to die quietly, raising our voices and creating awareness of such incident are excellent steps but when we are in positions that we can to do more than that to ensure Justice is not just a trend but is served in reality, we must take up such responsibilities and ensure justice is served in it real sense and not just in camera.
Silence is not always golden or else everyone would be slain and when our throat are being slit there would be no one left to speak out for us. Just because we are not affected does not give us licence to just pretend nothing is happening. Today is Uwa, Tina, and so many others, tomorrow it might be you or me, imagining if all the beautiful ideas or the dream you have in your head and promising future is been cut short because of someone’s irresponsibility or negligence, I want to ask at that time will silent be golden?
The yelling for justice will be a repeated song in futility if the act itself is not prohibited and the sanctity of the law is not upheld. We must not be silent at such times but must raise our voices to ensure the perpetrators are brought to book no matter who they are not just for justice but also to uphold the law and serve as deterrent to future rapist, killers and so on. Am not saying we should go against the laws and start riots or throw stones at the people in authority but we can use our various platforms and opportunities we have: be it writing, talking or even following up the cases,it takes a lot of courage to speak up but it is not just cowardice to keep quite but it is criminal and acceptance of an act to keep silent.
“Please help me” she called out with a feint hysterical voice, “I wish someone would save me she whispered” but no one heard because she was calling out only in her head, it was a cry only for the mind, her world has grown so dark, she was like a child in an abandoned thick cabin at the corner of this large world. She was in a dark room beneath a man, not just an ordinary man but a man who was familiar, familiar in body and in blood; she was his flesh and his own blood. The masculine figure with melanin skin, broad chest, broad face and thick lips have been persistently taking her to his shattered bed, shattered of this evil act.
Once he was done, he pulled up the Zip in his faded jean which was a moment ago almost falling off his knee, he hissed and slammed the door behind him. The poor girl on patterned skirt which was below her knees and polo which had inscriptions on it that read “saving the world for better” wished someone would save her too just like in the movies she has watched. She sat on the round abandoned small bed which their relations stayed at during visit with abrasion all over her delicate slim body. From the way it appeared this was not the first time, she was well accustomed with what to do and what not to do, she began to sob quietly placing her hands on her mouth shielding her sobs from his ears, she wanted to put an end to what was happening….He wasn’t just taking her to satisfy his undignified pleasure but he always started that with beatings because she would always fold her hands around her almost flat chest and fold her legs so tightly but like a bull will forcefully use his horn he always went for her making sure he had what he wanted. She was called Kemi, that was the name her grandmother called her before she passed on two years ago…
“Won’t you come out of that room and clean up this place?” he said hostile pushing the plates, books and clothes littered in the sitting room as he sat on the sofa pressing the remote on his dried palm, “and clean up yourself too, your mum is coming back this evening” He added faintly. She wiped continuously the tears that streamed it way down her chin as she made her way to the sitting room then to the kitchen room. When she came back the second time, he held her hand, she shrugged but he held on and placed her on his thighs and began to beg her, he said he loved her and was just showing her how much he does, he also said he wasn’t going to pay her school fee if she told her mum. She just listened, nodding her head in affirmation, unfortunately this time she was determined to let it out, to let everything out to her mum.
On that Friday evening, after much hesitation, Kemi walked up to her mother, who was at the sitting room, “what is the problem?” her mum asked not even raising her head to look at Kemi, she was so engrossed in what she was typing, “Mummy—I—I—want— to tell you something” she stammered, chewing her nails, “go on am listening” her mum said carelessly, with her eyes still fixed on the laptop and book consecutively. Kemi stood there for a while not sure of what to do, it was obvious her mum was not ready to give her the attention she required, so she decided to leave when her mum called out, “come back, you said you had something to tell me”, “yes” Kemi answered disappointed, “then am listening” her mum said and focused on the laptop again. Kemi had no Idea how to start, she had not spoken to her mum about her personal life for as long as she can remember, because her mum never even had the time to sit with her, she was a busy woman, so you won’t blame her, she provided more than half of the income that came into their home. “mu—–m–my Dad–dy is tou–ching me” she said dragging every word faintly expecting a reaction, Her Mum busted into laughter, turning around to face Kemi, she held her by the shoulder “Kemi I think you should go to your room and sleep” she said still laughing “he is your father Kemi, so you should expect him to touch you okay” She added laughing as whirled around to face the computer. The little girl, who was left standing, was left confused and disappointed, she tried to move her lips but it was so heavy and her eyes heavy in tears too, she just ran to her bed slamming the door behind her and as she sobbed. “Don’t be naughty Kemi, make sure you sleep”, the mum called out. Kemi just kept crying, allowing the tears its freedom, going to bed with her dad was a secret she was going to keep all her life, she couldn’t dare discuss this with her friends, who always talked about how their Daddy buys them so many gifts, still carry them on their back round the house without forcing them to his bed… “Mum does not even care, no one cares…” She sobbed quietly yet more bitterly, with her head still stuck on the pillow…
Children form an important part of our population. In recent times, the rate of child rights violation and violence against children have increased as children are put under degrading treatment and poor conditions of livelihood . Around the world, one out of five children lives in extreme poverty, living on less than US$1.90 a day.
In the early twentieth century, it was common for children to work alongside adults in unsanitary and unsafe conditions where there was no standard placed on how children should be treated. Growing recognition of the injustices of their situation, propelled by greater understanding of the developmental needs of children, led to a movement to better protection of children.
In that regards, many Conventions and Laws where brought about to curtail the injustices done to children and the poor and degrading standard of living. The most primary of such laws is the United Nation Convention on the Rights of the Child (1989) and subsequently the African Union Charter on the Rights and Welfare of the Child to which Nigeria is a signatory to the treaty. The primary law governing Child rights in Nigeria Is the Nigerian Child Rights Act of 2003.
The need to protect children have advanced over the years but gaps remain in meeting those needs, as children have not ceased to be object in the hands of manipulators, terrorists and abusers.
Children and Child’s Right
The Nigerian Child Rights Act 2003 defines a child as “a person under the age of eighteen years” The Convention on the Rights of a Child defines Child Rights as “a subset of human rights with particular attention to the rights of special protection and care afforded to minors”. Some of these Child rights in Nigeria includes: Right to survival and development, Right to private and family life, Right to dignity of the child, Right of a child to free, compulsory and universal primary education among others. The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC) summarises this into: the rights to survive, grow, participate and fulfill their potential.
For everyone who waited for this post, I just want to start by saying sorry it wasn’t a proposal or probably what you where thinking okay but hey!!!! for waiting this long you have proven that patience is also your virtue okay, cheers!!!.
I started racking my brain one month before my birthday, about how it was going to be and all especially for the fact that this birthday was a kind of different because I was going to celebrate it far away from home or where I had very few friends with the Covid 19… So I resumed Law school at Lagos February and for some special reason I have been here till this time while my family are in Nasarawa which is not a big deal but this is actually my first time of staying far way from home for this long though, Unlike my days in the university when I went home almost every weekend. I remember a particular time I had to pretend i was sick so I could leave a Saturday fixed lecture to go home “amazing me you know” (chuckles), and I was even angry at my friends for not saying i was sick when the lecturer recalled the attendance list… I did that not because I was rich but because my Dad works in a local government off the town my school was and passed in front of my school gate every week to go home, so it was what we would popularly call “awuff”.
So back to the gist, a lot of thoughts clouded my mind about how this birthday was going to be, so I told my Cousin the son of My Aunty with whom I was leaving with, that this my birthday was going to be low key, lol but I lied I didn’t know what to do and brokeness wasn’t helping matters.
“Kay Kay, so this my birthday will just come and pass like this…” I will say sometimes “I don’t know but I don’t want to tell anyone about this my birthday, that day I will just sleep…” I will say other times, “I want my Birthday to be on a low key…you know am growing I don’t need all those birthday…” I will lie to myself few times.
So this became My regular anthem, My cousins where obviously tired of hearing different versions of it…
Okay the real gist now…on Sunday my sisters called me, I was excited to talk to them as usual then just out of the blues my sister said she wanted to at least talk to our cousin (they have not met or spoken with them before), I felt reluctant, I thought it was awkward to just walk up to my cousins on a hot afternoon and just stretch out my phone to them without pre-informing them or something, so I told my siblings okay the next day I will allow them talk. At about 9 am the next day my phone rang and as usual i was excited to hear from home again and boom!!!! it was as if i had started a tornado that was going to disrupt my peace for God knows when, ” Faith What about what you said yesterday…can we talk to them now?” my sister was on the phone again and i was like “am in my room now they are also in their rooms” and that was how I started hearing voices from the background, my kid brother and other sisters obviously, “stand up and go give them the phone!!!!” I kept saying no and at a point i was shouting at the top of my voice (what crazy siblings can make you do lol) So I managed to tell them i was going out to give them the phone, so i rested few minute and there my phone went again “Fa—-i–th, are you with them? okay give them the phone” they didn’t even wait to hear my response, poor me was still lying on my bed….and there the went,” Faith we are not asking to talk to your boy friend please we want to talk to our cousins…” this time I said all my cousins went out lol it was obviously a dumb lie but i just wanted my peace. I managed to get them out of the phone and fell asleep but few minute into my sleep came the sound of my phone like a crying baby, tried to ignore but it kept ringing over and over again, there we go again I murmured in my head, their nagging drove the sleep out of my head, I decide to just go out and give my cousins the phone and the spoke and I did not know what was special to them about that but the ended the call after gisting by requesting my cousins phone number and he said he was going to give the number to me to send it to them( it certainly was their fault…).
prior to this I remember asking my cousin( the one whose number the needed) to give me his number and he refused, his respond was like he wasn’t going to give me his number because its not necessary… so I felt it hurt my feelings and pride for reasons only my village people know, so I said I wasn’t going collect his number. So when that Monday evening he gave me his number to give my sister, I vehemently refused and reminded him of what he said to me earlier but he still gave me the number but I received saying I won’t send until he apologized which he obviously said no laughing so I insisted, the next day my older cousin gave me the number again to send but I recounted what transpired between me and my other cousin and insisted he should apologize before I send it because he was going to be talking to my sister and the number was passing through me, at least I had something to raise shoulder with I thought, he reluctantly refuse laughing, saying I should delete the number after sending it but no my pride won’t let me, my older cousin also intervened asking me to just send it and be the bigger person that I should just let it slide but I insisted feeling myself and being all petty, at-least I was having fun been that way I thought until now…
The Most Important Gift We Have Received: The Gift of Eternal life
What Does Eternal life Mean to You?
I know a lot of people have wandered what is meant, Some have even deliberated on the possibility of it meaning “never drying” or “Living Forever”. A large populace view it as the life after the present life we are living. I.e the life beyond this life…Believers hold a similar view to this. To Christians eternal life is God’s precious gift to his children through the death and resurrection of Christ.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
When Jesus died for us he took the judgement of God concerning us along side with our sin, before now man was headed for eternal damnation. But when Jesus died, he broke the power of death, he died to our sinful nature that caused death and resurrected to life, giving us a new life. Jesus didn’t just give us a new life but he gave us a life that is eternal; the nature of the life we received is not temporal, even at dead those who have been saved continue to leave with the father because the have overcame the power of death.
And shall come forth; they that have done good, unto the resurrection of life; and they that have done evil, unto the resurrection of damnation.
As believers we have this new, refreshing assurance of life after death that just as Jesus Christ died and resurrected, we also resurrected with him and at the end of the world we will yet resurrect to live forever. Believers!!! as we live on earth: those who have truly accepted Gods salvation, we no longer live in fear of death. Apostle Paul wished to communicate the value of life after death to believers, when he said in the book Philippians:
For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.
There is no greater gift and there is no greater meaning to the death of Christ than the gift of eternal life through the death of Christ, it is out of love that Jesus Christ sent his son to die for our sins, God did not want us to perish so he sacrificed his son so we may have eternal life, I called a a gift because we did not earn it, neither did we ask for it but God did it out of his love for us, even when we were still sinners He gave his son to die for our Sins. So even as we live daily we must not take this for granted but must work towards securing this gift.
What Responsibility Does Christ Death Place on us?
Written by:Adgidzi Immanuel Akpus
The death of Jesus Christ took place some 2000 years ago before many witnesses who told others of the incident that happened before them. Aside what was seen in the physical that day, the scripture explains that there were things that occurred as a result of that death that was witnessed that day.
Some of these spiritual occurrences include:
When Jesus died, He went down to hell.(Acts 2:31, Ephesians 4:9)
He killed the flesh (human nature) and its lustful desire. (Galatians 5:24)
He also disarmed and made a public display of the forces of darkness. (Colossians 2:15).
Seeing what Christ has done by His death and as He said “It is finished”, signifying that He would not repeat the process any longer. As a Christian it is therefore expected (as a responsibility for me):
Accept the death of Christ upon my flesh (Dying to sin daily and living to Christ). I ought to die to worldly pleasures of sin. I ought to die to lust, lies, fornication, orgies, alcoholism,stealing and the likes.
The death of Jesus Christ should bring to me as a believer the responsibility of telling others about God’s faithfulness in fulfilling what He promised that Jesus would die for the sins of man as seen in (Isaiah 53:1-9)
The death of Jesus Christ should confer on me the desire to repent from sin and be baptized(Romans 6:3-4)
It should put a responsibility on me to live a righteous and holy life knowing that Christ died once and for all. (Hebrews 10:10).
The death of Christ places on me the responsibility of living in freedom, for i am no longer a slave but a son of a king who has giving me a mandate to rule. We are kings and Queens in Christ Jesus, so we must rule in whatever sphere of life we find our self; by his death, the responsibility of leadership has been placed on us.
Another great responsibility we must keep up with daily is love, we must love one another just as Christ loved us, we must remember that we didn’t deserve any of this but Christ did all these for us out of his love for us. We must extend this love to one another the same way Christ did to us unconditionally. You must love your neighbor as your self which is the greatest commandment.
Finally thinking of the responsibility the death of Christ has placed on me point to nothing but the great commission.
The Great Commission
Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go.When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted. Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.
Matthew 28: 16-20
In conclusion, the whole essence of this one week exercise is not to waste your time going over what you probably have the best Knowledge of, but to help us have a another look at the Cross very deeply and remind ourselves of what the cross did and what it really means to our life. This also is for us to really reflect on and begin to point our area of our life that we have constantly ignored in relation to this and trust the Holy Spirit to work on it. Personally for me, In the course of this one week journey I have reflected on every of this word and have made personally decisions to work on myself to become better and i think you can do that too.
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Every year as Christians, we celebrate Christ for the price he paid on the cross for us all. His death and blood that was shed which set us free from sin and death and brought us into reconciliation with the Father.This single act of love brought us into a new identity in Christ.
Who We Really are in Him?
As Christians, we are those who have been brought into a spiritual union with Christ, what’s known as being “born again”! The Spirit of the living God lives within you and you are sons and daughters of the living God, bought and paid for at a high price which is by the precious blood of the Lamb of God, Jesus Christ. When we are given new life in Jesus, we participate in the life, death, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus Christ.
“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. This life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me
When God call us to himself, we take on a new spiritual identity: in Christ; we become a new creation in Him, the old has passed and the new has come, upon Christ death we became an entirely new being, the implication is that our sins, addictions, inadequacies and all that is to former self is let go off and we assume an entirely, whole, new and sinless image. here God gives us the opportunity to start all over again
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Upon Christ death and our acceptance of Him, we have been baptized into his death,(Romans 6:3). In Colossians 3:3, Paul tells us that “you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” In Ephesians 2:6 we are told that God has “raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus.” Also, the Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to Sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.”(Romans 8:15). We are no longer servants! But friends of God. No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you (John 15:15).
God called us into his kingdom as priest and as kings/Queens because we are his heir, we are no longer slaves but Royalties and we belong to God’s royal priesthood, God has put his kingdom on earth under our control and desire us to do his will on earth as it is heaven. he has giving us a mandate of rulership, so you are not an ordinary person. 1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.
We are God’s masterpiece!!!! He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago, long before we where born.
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.
Before we were in Christ, we were destined for death and destruction, for our iniquities worked out death for us and eternal damnation, we were destined for despair, degradation, and poverty. Now we are destined for eternal life, in Christ, we are destined to have life and have it moreabundantly. God doesn’t want us to just live an Average or manageable life, he wanted us to live a right and abundant life in fulfillment,prosperity and contentment.
And in this fellowship we enjoy the eternal life he promised us.
1 John 2:25
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
The Holy Spirit is the third person in the Holy trinity; God the father, God the son and God manifest himself to us in this three ways. The Holy Spirit is the gift of God’s spirit to us through the death and resurrection of Christ, when Jesus Christ was going to live the earth he proclaimed the gift of the Holy Spirit, which was manifested in the Acts of Apostle on the day of Pentecosts. The Holy Spirit is an intercessor, a guardian and a counselor, the Holy Spirit does what Christ would have done in his physical form, it is Gods spirit living inside us. the Holy Spirit bears witness of Christ, of who Christ is and what he has done for us.
I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever; the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it does not behold Him or know Him, but you know Him because He abides with you, and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
What the Holy Spirit does
The Holy spirit convict
The Holy Spirit convicts us of our sin, the presence of the Holy Spirit convicts us when we sin, it makes us see how sinful we are and the need to reconcile with the father. The Holy Spirit helps us to live with the consciousness of sin. The Holy Spirit does not just convict us and leave us to suffer with our guilt and shame: the Holy Spirit helps us to overcome our sin because on our own we cannot defeat the power of sin but the Holy Spirit quicken our bodies and mind to resist and defeat sin.
Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Helper will not come to you. But if I go, I will send him to you. And when he comes, he will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment.
The Holy Spirit Intercedes
We all have times we feel weak and don’t know what to do. The Holy Spirit helps us line up with God’s will during those times by interceding for us. For our human flesh does not know how to please the father but the Holy Spirit intercede for us, even in our communication with God through prayer, the Holy Spirit teaches what to pray and how we should pray even through the gift of tongues the Holy Spirit intercede for us.
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.
The Holy Spirit is a Counselor
The Holy Spirit is also a counselor, it instructs us on what to do and what not to do, the presence of the Holy Spirit direct us on the right path of our life in things like marriage, Jobs, Appointments, where to go and what is sin or not. The Holy Spirit brings to action grace, because the Holy Spirit makes things easy for us, for if we know the right way to go we wont be going about doing trial and error. for example if you are writing an exam, the Holy Spirit may counsel you and direct you on topics to focus on, that way you don’t have to read the entire course, which would yield you focus and more efficiency.
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future. He will bring me glory by telling you whatever he receives from me.All that belongs to the Father is mine; this is why I said, The Spirit will tell you whatever he receives from me.
The Holy Spirit Protect
The Holy Spirit is our defender, he fights our spiritual battles for us, he fights things or forces of Darkness that we might not see. The Holy Spirit also protect and deliver us from physical enemies,so we know the we don’t need to fight battles physically but through the Holy spirit.
Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places…
Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith…the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
God’s love is not just an emotion, it is a compelling force and an expression of unconditional love; God did not even wait for us to come to repentance to earn his love , he called us to himself through his love such that while we were sinners he died for us . Gods love is unfailing and does not cause doubt or confusion, it is clear and restorative in nature. God loves us so much that he knows the number of hair on our head, he even engraved our name in his palm, we are precious in his eyes, Isaiah 43:4.
What Christ did for us; He loved us and gave himself for us
God loved man so much that even when He sinned against him he still had a plan to redeem him to himself, Christ is the bridge that reconnected us with the father so that we are no longer slaves but Sons. He sent his only begotten son so that he may live among us and be subjected to the flesh for our sin. Like the prodigal son we erred and wandered so far into the wilderness and the pleasure of the world, so arrogantly and ignorantly, yet God waited patiently for us to return to him and when we where reconciled to him God rejoiced counting not our sin.
God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it.”
Christ was the Shepard and we were the lost sheep, he left all 99 sheep (the riches of his kingdom) just to look for a single us, so that we can be reconcile to the father, that is how important we are to him. Like a sheep Christ was led to be slaughtered , he would have opted out or have begged or apologized to the pharisees or even bribed Herod but no!!, Jesus Christ endured our sin, he endured the pain, shame, burden, guilt and forsake so that through him we could experience what love truly is.
There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
Freedom in Christ mean different things to different Christians, to some it means freedom and independence from the doctrine of the church and the rules that governs it, to others freedom means total licence to do as the want with no restrictions even when sometimes it might not glorify the father. To the More passionate Christians freedom means being set free from the oppression of sin, guilt and condemnation through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Captives (Romans 1:28-32)
The death of Christ brought about liberation of man. when man sinned against God he fell short of Gods glory and was in bondage of sin, fear and the law. We where sentenced to death for our sin, sin brought on us death and eternal condemnation. To walk in sin is to be dead, to be enslaved to dark powers and to be separated from God, man had no true dominion because he was nothing but a slaved and sinned ruled over him, he had no knowledge of his power, inheritance… God forsook Man for his sin so he had to pay for his sin, he had to bear his own cross, humiliation, his guilt and shame.
For the sin of this one Man (Adam)* caused death to rule over many…
Easter is one of the most important event in Christianity which is probably nothing new to you reading this post, for me I knew what Easter was since when I was growing up as a child, not in detail though but I took into cognisance that it was a period for me when i was going to get new clothes from mum and dad, may be eat new food and go to church and have the preacher scream at his voice the story of Jesus crucifixion. In reality both Christians and non-Christian look forward to Easter for some reasons: some because that is the first holiday after the new year had begun, for them, it is a period to rest, go for holidays and may be even throw parties, while others (most likely Christians) see it as that moment to cast their thought to the shadows of history past, to the period where Jesus Christ was crucified either to celebrate or have a sober reflection on that.
Beyond all that there notable significance of Easter, so that we can all enjoy the gifts of God through this wonderful and remakable event. we will be going through this significance, considering each one daily in this week to reimind and refresh our minds. in this regard that brings me to the question: what does Easter mean to you?, What does the death of Jesus Christ mean to you?
What does the death of Christ mean to you?
Day one: Reconciliation
What is Reconciliation?
Generally reconciliation means to end a conflict or disagreement with somone and start of a good relationship again. To christians reconciliation means a positive change in the relationship between God and Man or man and other creation. When Man in the garden of Eden sinned against God there was a disconnection between Man and God, a disconnection in the relationship that existed between them, it was at that point that man started to trade his path into condemnation and darkness, Man was condemed to death, he couldn’t hear God and had no direction or identity, He couldn’t identify with God as his son, freind or his heir because no relationship existed between them, the bond between them was broken and a thick dark veil seperated them.
What caused the disconnection?
Not to bore you the disconnection between God and man was cause by sin or let me say disobedience. While man loved sin God hated sin; God could not behold sin so He sent man away from his presence, as a result man was cut off, he had no access to the father. So man wandered into his own wilderness, into condemnation on his own, alone and shattered.
But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, And your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear you.
Man sought after his own righteousness, struggling to reedeem himself through the law, laws he made for himself and those that where giving by God, but God’s law was giving so that man could see how sinful he was for the law brought to light man’s condemnation. So man failed in redeeming himself through the law, it was hard for the flesh to keep God’s law because God was a spirit and man could not understand the things of the spirit.
for if you are trying to make yourself right with God by keeping the law, you have been cut-off from christ! you have fallen from grace…
God’s plan B (Jesus Christ)
Even though man had sin God still loved him… God’s love would be talked about in the course of the week in day three (3). So God sent his son Jesus Christ to die for us so we can be reconciled to the Father and be redeemed by his blood. The effect would be that when God looks at us he sees not our righteousness or iniquities but the blood of Jesus which intercede for us, So that we are forgiving of all our unrighteousness. That was the significance of the tearing of the veil at the temple when Jesus died on the cross…the veil was torn so that we can now have direct access to the father and we could hear God directly for our selves and see his glory revealed to us.
And Jesus cried out again with a loud vioce ,and yielded up His spirit. Then, behold, the veil of the temple was thorn in two from top to bottom…
The Reality of our lives
The reality of our lives today is that we suffer alot of disconnections from God, through sin or the occurrences in our lives, which can be: the hard times we go through, the lost of our loved ones, Jobs, Contracts, ungodly addictions, sin, and habits. Sometimes for reasons we may not point we waver, even though we have the knowledge of Christ’s death for us, our faith still waver… sometimes we struggle with things we ourselves can’t discern, we wander in thoughts and physically, trying to work out our righteousness, but even though we keep every law we ought to, we still feel that disconnection and sometimes its as if God is not there anymore, there are times we get frustrated, we feel so alone, shaterred and condemmed because even though we are trying it’s as if nothing seem to be working, the only thing we see is our brokeness, guilt and unworthiness. I personally have gone through this can kind of situation too, but here is what we are missing out…
What gives a salt value is its taste, once its looses it’s taste it becomes useless and needless...Imagine a salt that has lost it’s tastiness of what good will it be? except to be thrown and trampled on on by men, at least that was what I understood from the book of Matthew 5:13…
I would love to describe us as salt, So in the world and our relationship with people we are like a salt, the taste or value we add to their lives determine our durability in their lives, and the value we add to the world determine our relevance in it, the presence of a salt is being felt wherever it is, the spice and taste it has gives it that value, but what happens if the salt loose that tastiness or it’s value?Sometimes the only reason we are relevant or needed in a relationship is because we add value to that relationship be it friendship, romantic relationship, family, office or otherwise, so what happens if the reason people are attracted to us is not longer there? I will won’t be strict to literally say as the Bible that we will be trampled on but I will say you may simply become boring, unattractive and needless. Imagine having a cloth which is a trend and rated very expensive am sure the value you will attach to it will be so much but imagine what happens when it stops being a trend or becomes old fashion; you will notice an abrupt springing of uninterest in the cloth and sometimes you might even get rid of it in whatever way necessary, most times we even get very angry at its sight because it has lost it’s value, it’s saltiness, it’s sense of attraction and as a result it’s relevance.
Have you ever been friends with people or worked with people and all of a sudden you feel so left out or abandoned, or begin to have a feeling of rejection or simply feel invincible? Personally at some point in my life I have felt that way, sometimes we even suffer depression as a result of this and for me I learnt that we struggle, lament and worry too much to fit in forcefully or get peoples attention while we should simply be standing out and working on ourselves; the truth is people won’t value you until the need you or you posses something the need, simply put; your relevance is determine by your needfulness.
To remain relevant just like the salt we must add value, to remain needful in our circle of friends, work, clubs, and the world at large we must constantly maintain our value, our tastiness. sometimes to get that attention we desire, we must take deliberate actions and determine to be value adders wherever we find our selves, we must continue to work on ourselves, learn new things (might be a relevant skill: personal, soft or hard skill), learn new ways of doing even old things and make a commitment to be a solution not a mere burden.
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“Just because something is negative doesn’t mean it can’t have a positive impact in your life…” Motivation is what makes you do something, that is the force that keeps you going. According to Newton’s law of motion it states that
Every object will remain at rest or in uniform motion in a straight line unless compelled to change its state by the action of an external force.
The key point here is that if there is no force acting on an object then the object remains at rest and If an external force is applied the velocity will change because of the force. Applying the Newton’s law to life now, in the course of living our life there is a force that keeps us pushing be it abstract or concrete, external or internal, which I call motivation. Motivation is very important because it constitute the force that drives us, Imagine a life without a motivation, it will be so stagnant or slow because without a reason to do something, doing that thing will be meaningless and almost impossible.
Your motivation can be a feeling, thought and it can also be a person or what someone said to you…Motivation doesn’t have to be positive, your motivation can be negative or positive. The negative occurrence in our life, like the things that did not work out, failed exams, failed jobs, failed relationship or the struggles in our families, jobs and life in general can be a motivation. Our motivation can also be the positive things in our life that keeps us on our toes, pushing us forward, they can be the positive actions of people we admire, our zeal to keep the people in our life happy and the need to remain where we are or get better…
Negative or positive, there is a force that keeps us going but it depends on the interpretation we give to them, sometimes in misconception we view those things as frustrations and discouragement when they can be what could ignite the fire in us and stir us to the destination we desire and where God want us to be. That someone said something hurtful to you or treated you badly or that you didn’t get what you wanted because of your skills, looks, race, gender, status, nationality or background does not always have to have a negative effect on you, you can turn that into a force. You don’t have to device means to get back at them or drown into depression as a result of these things, you can simply use that to heat up your energy to become a better you at your area of inadequacy (at least they helped you identify your weakness).
So at this point I want to ask you, What is Your motivation in Life? what is the force that keeps you going? reflect in your life and point out those things that cold seem a motivation those things you have viewed as obstacles or discouragement and begin to see things, people and circumstances in your life differently.
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They say love is beautiful, charming and adorable but to Richey love is like a black magic casted on her. The young seemingly fleshy, fair lady on tattered cloth sat, renting her body to the cemented surface littered with flies attracted by the rain that fell that day, her eyes were red and swollen as if they had encountered pepper from repeated sessions of bathing her chin with the rivers vomited by the socket above her nose, after a while, she stood up walking to and fro with her hands on her head and wailing, she had Carttah flowing from her nose complementing the tears that found solace on her chin. I, mum, other tenants and the man and woman that brought her home were watching, we all watched in pity, wishing we could help her but the young lady was far from needing our help. “Arinze!, where are you? A–rin–ze I love you” I watch her collapse to the ground in tears, “please am sorry, come back Arinze” she added hitting the ground as if to break it with her body. This Arinze, I said to my self, this guy that has led her to this condition, this guy that has abounded her and left her like this, she didn’t even still hate him a bit, she still call him love and begged he comes,” this is not love, this is madness, love is a spell” I buzzed in disbelieve, this pretty girl was now looking like a zombie…before we knew it she was throwing her wide short legs to the gate to look for her lover obviously, that was when people began to beg and restrain her but she showered us with insult and insane talks, she was drunk, yes bastardly drunk and acting stupid, all for love, “what stupid love?” I yelled, this is madness and this young lady was obviously insane.”Daddy, honey, love…”she would always call the guy who look from all indication, very young in age and a flirt. Jane offered him her heart, her body and her salary, she thought he would take her to the alter. she always announced to everyone that he was her husband and they where going to get married next month, next month that never comes.
I remember how many times she would get drunk and make a whole lot of trouble but even in drunkenness she recognizes him, Arinze! he was her master and she was more of a slave to his love than his partner, because this love was not beautiful, it was unfair, partial and not good for you, even for me, because I remember how many times he will render punches on her as if she was his punch bag and press her neck as if to deprive her of life but yet she would still go after him, maybe begging him to beat her the more, she preferred to be with him in pain than to be without him, she was so in love with him, may be let’s call it dark love, this loves like an Angel’s Trumpet flower my mum always talk about, it was beautiful yet toxic and poisonous.
I recall that what resulted to her condition this evening is that the guy she calls a lover borrowed almost a hundred thousand from her, which she collected from her customers because she worked in the bank, he had been unable to pay her back and the customer who were impatient like a child waiting for food had reported her to the manager and now her job, even her salary was at stake. I remember the previous evening when they had argument in that respect, I watched them through my window quietly because my window was directly facing theirs and the light in the room was so bright that it expose their figures and the thin, slim curtain, was so light that it could not cover this awful secret. I watched her yell at him and I watch how so many times he held her mouth as if prevent her from talking further, he didn’t even use the kissing method everyone use to talk about to shut her up but his hands, I was somehiow terrified as I watch her struggled for air like a dying chicken but on and on he went preventing her from talking further, until she fell asleep, I watch with my heart racing because I had no clue about what he was doing, just immediately my mum interrupted and when I got back there, I placed my face on the window holding the burglary to watch ,I saw him doing something, so creepy and terrifying, he was moving around searching her things, “oh my God” I whispered lost, he whirled abruptly, so I quickly jumped on my bed, my head buried on my pillow left to my imagination until this morning, wandering what love this was.
The next morning when I saw the girl who was yelling for her money, crying like a child beaten and begging this young man she called husband, lover and of all her life, I knew everything was not okay. She kept telling him he was everything she had and she would die if he left, she wasn’t even asking for the money, so irritated I thought quietly gluing my ear against my window, I didn’t know what to think because I could only imagine what was happening, I was so scared he was going to harm her may be even kill her. “what is happening here!?” My mum was Standing in front of her door, “nothing mummy,he is not doing anything to me, am just begging him “she pleaded defensively, concealing the tears on her face with her palm, what pissed me off was his response, I could read the disgust in mum’s face, “she is not hearing word, I want to teach her a lesson “I heard him say, this was the same person that is indebted to her, disgusted I wandered who was suppose to be taught a lesson, of course it was him who deserved such lesson because he didn’t respect love neither her. To cut the story short even dad at a point that day went there to warn them because he continuously heard rustles from the room and plates falling, may be he was also scared that they were going to harm themselves, I didn’t have a word to say because I was still stunned at the love that was displayed before my eyes. This Lady spent her whole day on the carpet, asking this guy not to be angry, she sat with her breast and bare thigh without even an under cover…as my mum later explained begging this guy who sat on the bed directly facing her with his legs wide open, his hands resting on them and his shoulder high like lion king or something watching Richey sitting messy like a trash with no pity or remorse and this was called love, even when my dad interfered the young lady was ready to receive all the blame like Jesus Or Mohammed, she denied that the guy was even hurting her in anyway but I saw it pasted her face that she was hurt and had been crying till that afternoon but she was carried away by love, while dad threatened I watch the lover boy with wide head likened to an Amoeba’s shape, broad lips, bony chin and thin body, blamed the lady for everything, I watched him wear his shoes and walked towards the gate, while she raced after him with only wrapper and her breast dangling as she followed but you know the guy outsmarted her and I didn’t really know what happened but I saw her walked back barefooted cleaning the Carttah that raced it way from her nose with her palm and her eyes with her wrapper, poor girl I thought but am sure she didn’t see it the way, may be she didn’t even see anything wrong with what he was doing to her because she was in love.
That was the same evening she came back drunk, after much deliberation we decided to go get her Arinze because she kept running towards the gate in the name of going to look for him, I was fed up with her and her insult but I tolerated it, wishing I could spank her with a wood on her head because to me she was acting stupid. Thanks to the woman who knew where Arinze lived. When he got there, I watched the young Lady’s switch of countenance, as usual even in drunkenness she recognized him, I watch her smiled pointing at him like a psycho, “I told you, this is my husband “she said walking towards him, I and my mum startled, exchange glances, as the young man authoritatively told her to come and with no objection she did swinging her short legs stylishly and excitedly, he held her in the hand and ask her to go to the room, you would think she would object but she didn’t, she was loyal to his love, he asked her further to sit and lay on the bed and she did, she was smiling but he wasn’t, his face was straight and that irritated me the more, she did everything he wanted her to do without complain, I watched scared of what this love really was, if this is love then let it be far from me I concluded disgusted and angry. Other people watched too, my mum, other tenants, the man that picked her dead drunk from the road did too. I watch everyone dispatched one after the other until it was only I and my mum, mum just hissed and entered inside the house, I manage to sit at the verandah, imagining how comes he was the only who could calm her down, I guess he had put her to sleep. I was so scared for her, people called it love but this wasn’t love to me, it was more than that, may be it was a charm or something, in fact I think this lady had serious psychological issues and needed not love but therapy, she was too beautiful to be treated that way, I didn’t know what was wrong with her but all I know up till this moment is she needed help, I don’t care what anyone would say but I know I can’t love like this because love to me is a mutual feeling shared by both parties, it is impartial, rational, love is meant to be felt with the heart not just body and meant to bring laughter not tears, if I will love, I will love with my heart and head, I don’t know about you but I don’t want to love like this enslaved to a dark, bitter love.
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